Should Parenting be 50/50?
Even in the 21st century, the question of equal parenting involvement and responsibilities remains a hot topic for many couples. Some people believe that mothers and fathers have specific “roles” to play when it comes to raising their children.
Others think that all effort should be equal to show children that moms and dads can do anything and everything.
There are pros and cons to a 50/50 split in parenting responsibilities. Ultimately, it’s up to you and your partner how you want to raise your children. But, understanding how balancing the effort can make a difference might impact what you decide to do.
So, should parenting be a 50/50 split?
Social Development Benefits
There have been multiple studies on the benefits of both parents sharing responsibility in child raising. For starters, it helps with social development.
It shouldn’t come as a surprise that adults have different communication and attachment styles. When your child learns those styles from two people, they’ll be more likely to adapt to other people’s communication styles and experience a variety of perspectives.
When both parents are involved, kids are more likely to grow up with a better sense of empathy and a clearer understanding of the world. Alternatively, when one parent does most of the work, your child’s view of the world and people could be limited. They’re likely to adopt the mindset of that one parent and might have a hard time understanding other perspectives.
Emotional Development Benefits
In addition to gaining more social insight, children with parents who split responsibilities tend to feel more secure. They develop stronger emotional bonds and feel safe to express their emotions.
Children with secure attachment styles tend to be more well-adjusted as they grow up. They’ll have higher self-esteem and healthier relationships later on in life.
Children with both parents involved also tend to be more emotionally resilient. When they see you and your partner teaching with different parenting styles, they’ll be able to navigate different emotional situations with greater ease. They’ll also have more people in their support system who can help with challenges and problems. Parents might offer different types of guidance, giving their children options when it comes to overcoming issues on their own later in life.
Better Academic Performance
Multiple studies have shown that children who have both parents involved tend to have higher test scores. When both parents engage themselves in their child’s education, that child is more likely to find a learning style that works for them. They’ll also know they have a support system for their education, providing them with positive resources and a platform for academic success.
Parents often have different educational backgrounds, which can be beneficial for children. A mother might have a different skill set than a father. When they both take an interest in their child’s education, that young student gets the best of both worlds.
A Better Family Connection
Parents who are both actively involved in raising their children tend to experience more harmony in their relationships. This can improve the family bond and help the children understand the stability of a family.
Additionally, stronger relationships are likely to form within the family. This doesn’t mean there won’t be any animosity among siblings, but unified, attentive parents help their children navigate conflict and find resolutions.
A 50/50 split in parenting effort doesn’t come without its challenges. You might disagree with some things your partner does or says. You might have different learning, communication, or discipline styles. But working through them together as a family is a great way to improve your bond and boost your relationship while benefiting your child.
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